Divorce in the Glorious Quran

[Zainab_M]

MashAllah sister Muslima.  You have truly understood this topic very accurately and correctly.  And I so much agree with you that divorced women in the traditional Muslim society are generally left feeling very secluded.  Even though the Noble Quran gives divorced women full rights within the bounds of decency just as it does to men, yet because of the chain of bid'ah introduced by Hadith and fatwas, unfortunately our Muslim society has gotten quite male-dominated by violating the important principles of the Great Quran.  And of course, when divorced women are discriminated, automatically their monor children who are in their custody suffer too.  Although the Noble Quran is full of responsibilities for divorced men, yet divorced men are often comforted and taught by their imams that they don't owe anything to their divorced wives and children who are with their mothers.  It only shows how little the Muslims know about the Noble Quran and how little they desire to understand it.  

[Heba E. Husseyn]

I know a Muslim couple who got divorced a few years ago when their 2 children were in their late teens.  The husband got married to someone else and cut off all links with his former wife and children, even though he hasn't legally divorced his first wife.  Not just that, but since he left, he hasn't paid a dime as financial compensation to his family whom he deserted.  His daughter got married recently and he didn't even attend her wedding, let alone contributing financially  which was his bounden duty as a believer.  This is the condition of Muslims today and an evidence of how far they have drifted from the Quran.

[MuslimanMahlon]

How unfortunate..

[MuslimanMahlon]

To go through all those years of marriage, raisin' kids... And to turn out coldhearted like that.

[Heba E. Husseyn]

Exactly, so incredibly cold hearted.

[Zainab_M]

Something very similar happened to a lady I know who is a good friend of mine living in my country of origin.  Her husband of 20 years left her and their three children for another woman whom he married.  He's legally also married to his first wife but never sees her nor the children.  Usually in such cases if the first wife wants to marry another man, she has to take a divorce without consulting her husband personally through her lawyer.  In most such cases the husband gives a difficult time, refusing to sign the divorce papers or simply not responding only to harass her .. no other reason.  These folks aren't just aware how firmly such behavior has been prohibited in the Quran.   The problem with these societies is that since they're run on the basis of the man-written Shariah, the laws are totally lopsided, only favoring the men.  Anything man-made or man-written can never be properly balanced like the Divine Law.  In the West it's the opposite of these so-called Muslim countries .. the other extreme.  The law favors women wholly and divorce often becomes an ordeal for the husband.  Many men end up getting financially broke for the rest of their lives, because the legal authorities try to squeeze out as large a slice of the financial settlement as possible from the husband so that the government can save on allowances to divorced women.  Thus, in both societies it involves the selfish interest of law-makers.

If we carefully read the divorce laws in the Quran, that brings an excellent balance between the two explaining that divorce, separation nor the couple's children should be the cause of suffering or burden for the wife nor the husband.  

[Heba E. Husseyn]

Very true sis. 

[MuslimanMahlon]

And with divorce, the Qur'an always follows up with the message of treating your ex with kindness, by all means necessary.

"When ye have divorced women, and they have reached their term, then retain them in kindness or release them in kindness. Retain them not to their hurt so that ye transgress (the limits). He who doeth that hath wronged his soul. Make not the revelations of Allah a laughing-stock (by your behaviour), but remember Allah's grace upon you and that which He hath revealed unto you of the Scripture and of wisdom, whereby He doth exhort you. Observe your duty to Allah and know that Allah is Aware of all things." Surah 2:231

"And when ye have divorced women and they reach their term, place not difficulties in the way of their marrying their husbands if it is agreed between them in kindness. This is an admonition for him among you who believeth in Allah and the Last Day. That is more virtuous for you, and cleaner. Allah knoweth; ye know not." Surah 2:232

"If ye divorce them before ye have touched them and ye have appointed unto them a portion, then (pay the) half of that which ye appointed, unless they (the women) agree to forgo it, or he agreeth to forgo it in whose hand is the marriage tie. To forgo is nearer to piety. And forget not kindness among yourselves. Allah is Seer of what ye do." Surah 2:237

"For divorced women a provision in kindness: a duty for those who ward off (evil)." Surah 2:241

[Zainab_M]

Yes brother, these were precisely the Verses I was referring to.  Thanks a lot for quoting them.   It's so obvious how much emphasis the Quran applies on the aspect of compassionate treatment toward divorced women and mutual kindness .. not to make trouble for them after divorce.  Unfortunately not a single Muslim country today cares the least nor even remembers these verses.  No wonder divorce rules in Muslim countries are so different from what's mentioned in the Quran.   And worst of all are the South Asian Muslims who have borrowed many social traditions from the kufar of India.  They don't even pay for the dowry .. not even a portion it.  Instead they make the bride pay for all expenses of the marriage and in case of a divorce do not return a dime of what she spent on her husband.  

[muslima]

stone hearted shameless people   Exactly! majority of muslim men's carry careless  attitude towards X-wife and childrens .ONLY Women suffer most in divorce cases.
everyone will be questioned..

Lo! those who expect not the meeting with Us but desire the life of the world and feel secure therein, and those who are neglectful of Our revelations,10:7

Lo! they who persecute believing men and believing women and repent not, theirs verily will be the doom of hell, and theirs the doom of burning 85:10

Lo! the punishment of thy Lord is stern. 85:12