Message #14824

[Zainab_M]

Walaikum Salaam our dear brother Abbotonian.  Please feel free to talk about this very important personal issue  anytime and anywhere on our forum.  You can also start a new thread whenever you want to share information or to share your feelings with your sisters and brothers.  It helps to lighten the anxiety of the suffering person - be it emotional or physical - and thus it will help us to earn the sawab of Allah Almighty, InshAllah.

I am indeed saddened to learn that there has been no improvement yet.  Anyone would know what a devastating affect it can have on the minds of the loved ones.   I can so well imagine how shattered the children must be.   A house becomes a home when both mother and father are healthy.  I lost my beloved mother when I was in college.  And then, a year later my beloved father got struck with paralysis and was bound to a wheel chair for next 26 years of his life. I was literally immersed in grief.  But apart from losing use of his legs, he was otherwise in good health, alert and very conscious of the surroundings.  I thank Allah for that .. and I'm think of the days I spent with him taking care of him with so much joy and peace of heart.

No brother, don't ever think it's a punishment. Allah never punishes innocent people nor innocent children.  It's a test.   It's just something that Allah ordained in the lives of all five of you.  The most important truth is that just as happiness is temporary, grief is temporary too .. that's because earthly life for everyone has a fixed number of days.  Despite that, I so accurately connect with you when you express your pain at seeing your beloved  wife in her present condition.  It's also a very helpless situation when apart from patience (sabr) and plenty of dua, human resources cannot go beyond that.  I have no doubt you are providing the best medical care you can within your means.   No matter where and how good the doctors might be, there comes a point in everyone's life when even the best doctors cannot go any further and have to leave the matter to Allah.  Our wonderful beloved sister, your wife, is always in our prayers.  We greatly admire her courage and sabr.

We are truly proud to have you in our forum dear brother. Please keep us regularly informed about your wife's health.

May Allah Almighty grant your wife, you, your children and all other members of your family and extended family sabr and strength.  All of you are always in our prayers.  Ameen ya Rabb.