Firstly, salam and Ramadan Kareem everyone
I thought that I had to sign up first, get approved, then make a post in the
introduction (which I thought was the GB). Whoops. I didn't notice the section titled "guestbook". And the ID "Selma" is reserved but that is me.
I am a 16 y/o girl living in Washington state. About half a year ago I made the decision to reject any extra-Qur'anic literature, although I've always been uncomfortable with Hadith for as long as my memory extends. Since my worries were never confirmed by anyone, I carried on believing and practicing Sunni traditions.
When I first started dabbling with the concept of just following the Qur'an, several times I second-guessed myself. Tariq Ramadan was visiting the masjid that we attend. During his lecture he said something to the extent of "...and all you people who are not sure of Hadith, well you're wrong because without it you wouldn't be able to pray. /smug grin". Not really sure what he was talking about before, but I remember that distinctly. At the time it made me feel foolish for even considering it.
Of course from what my family and the Muslim community told me, I was never really sure what came from Hadith and what came from the Qur'an as it was all one in the same to them. Upon becoming "Quranist" (aka just Muslim) many of my previously held beliefs were abandoned. It wasn't difficult, but a little startling to realize how much is actually not derived from the Qur'an, but shaky, unreliable, un-Islamic sources. To name of few that were surprising, the belief in al-Mahdi, 2nd coming of Jesus, al-Israa wil Miraj. At least to me they were because they seem pretty significant.
Now a little background. I come from a Sunni family. They are not overtly strict, but just your typical moderate Egyptian family. Still, Hadith is ingrained in their practice of Islam.
One day I decided to tell my mom that I don't believe in Hadith, because I thought naturally she should know. Wellll, big mistake. At first she asked which ones (lol), but then it dawned on her that I meant entire damned thing, and she literally went ahead and called me a Kaafira and continued on rampage on how she wishes she never raised me in America and that the internet is corrupting my mind and all sorts of lovely things, and we were in public too!
We have fought about this numerous times to the point she wanted the imam talk with
me. Another thing, my mom has always been interested in the arts, and piano is her passion. I ask her if Hadith is so important why does she listens and plays music when its forbidden? And her reply is always vague and sketchy. She tries so justify it but at the same time admit that its a fault, I mean, I don't really know why she's so surprised I'm not Sunni. Sunni Muslims rarely practice what they preach, and they'll justify what is difficult for them to give up (i.e Music). I reckon since its easy
not to own a dog, that's why they're called impure and najis.
I know many-a Sunni women who tweeze their eyebrows and wear perfume, and plenty men who don't have a beard and almost everyone listens to music, but God forbid someone challenges the institution of hadith. Are they outright admitting they have no problem committing haram? I don't think any of the above is haram, but by their standards it is. I can't blame them sometimes, how can any of it be taken seriously??
If anyone's heard of Al-Maghrib institute, they organize 2-day weekend workshops all around the USA. A cumulative number of attendances can earn a degree.
Anywho, I attended "the Fiqh of Food and Clothing" presented by Sheikh Yasir Qadhi. As the class reached the portion about the man's beard, the Sheikh had us open our binders (that were given to the students before class) to a page with this:
We had to circle which beards were acceptable and which were not. HAH! Funniest thing ever.
On a more serious note, some Hadith I've found to be downright insulting to the Rasul.
Like this one
Abu Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: "the Messenger of Allah said,
‘No prayer is harder for the hypocrites than the morning and the night prayers and if they knew the reward for these prayers at their respective times, they would certainly present themselves in the mosques even if they had to crawl." The Prophet added, "Certainly I decided to order the muadhdhin to pronounce adhan and order a man to lead the prayer and then take a fire flame to burn all those who had not left their houses so far for the prayer along with their houses.’” (Bukhari, Adhan 29, Husumat 5, Ahkam 52; Muslim, Masajid 252, (651); Muwatta, Salatu'l-Jama'a 3, (1, 129-130); Abu Dawud, Salat 47, (548, 549); Tirmidhi, Salat 162, (217); Nasai, Imamah 49, (2, 107).taken from here:
http://www.questionsonislam.com/question/burning-house-prophet-pbuh-if-prayer- congregation-not-attended
I actually used this in one of my arguments with my mom. I always try to assure her
that by rejecting hadith, one is rejecting all the slander directed at Prophet Mohamed
(PBUH) and that one of the purposes of Hadith was to conspire against thus ruining
his reputation. Needless to say she thought I was nuts. I showed her the Hadith above
and she was like "uuhhhh, uhmmm. Well...maybe he did say that...uhm". 2 days later she
tells me she talked with a Sheikh and he told her the reason why the Prophet would say
this is to emphasize the importance of going to the masjid to pray fajr and Isha. My
mom is an intelligent woman, so I don't know how she buys into this. I'll be honest, before I knew that Hadith was garbage, I felt ambivalence towards the Prophet.
I knew he was supposed to be great man that we revere, but certain Hadith made me
doubt the his moral character (so basically they succeeded
). I feel very embarrassed to admit it, but I wasn't able to bite the bullet like other Muslims, but now I know these Hadith are false.
Since a couple months ago, I've stopped opening up these discussions with my mom. They
are too much trouble. All I want her is to respect and tolerate my beliefs but I don't see that happening so I keep quiet. It gets difficult sometimes. Like right now I'm going through my monthly cycle (sorry if it sounds crude) and I have to prevent my mom from finding out or else I have to pray in secret and not act like I absolutely cannot eat (ex: when asking me to taste her cooking to see if the salt is good). Every day of Ramadan I've tried to wait until dark to break my fast so I slip away after Maghrib prayer for 30 minutes or so to not get asked to break my fast. I tried mentioning to my mom casually that the Qur'an literally states to break fast at nightime, and she replied with "That's what the Shia do. And the Rasul broke his fast at sunset so that's what we're doing".
I'm sorry for complaining so much, but right now there is no one that is suporting me.
Besides my mom, I've told my older brother, dad, and some friends. My dad agrees with
me I guess, but I suspect this stems from his apathy towards Hadith. Basically he's
not on the offensive (strongly against Hadith) but isn't a proponent of it either.
Remember how I said that I used to not differentiate between Qur'anic and extra-
Qur'anic commands? Well this is the case with my dad. Since he's not actively against
Hadith, he's still bound by some Sunni tradition. I hope that makes sense. Despite
this, I'm more comfortable talking about religion with him than my mom, and by a long shot. Unfortunately he lives far away from me in another state.
My brother is a open-minded individual so perhaps he agrees with me, but at the very least he respects my views.
The rest of my family...I dread the day I will have to confront them :c I don't even know.
As for my close friends, none of them are Muslim so there. They couldn't care less.
I've contemplated joining the free-minds forum but after browsing I'm not so sure.
One member tried to bring up points against human evolution and he was hurled at with
insults. Anyone who disagrees with their quasi-liberal ideology is usually told more or less "you display typical Sunni-like behavior" and will most likely be exiled off the forum. Not to
Some members outright don't believe in the infallibility of the Qur'an (why are they Muslim?)
I wanted to have a prominent Qur'anist come to the masjid and speak so the Qur'an-alone viewpoint gets more visibility. Some people I've considered were Kassem Ahmed and Ahmed Subhi Mansour but they both seem to be the "anti-jihad" type.I don't want the Qur'an-alone stance to be seen as one that is the product of Western influence.
So far, Muslimvilla is the only resource I'm getting my Islamic knowledge from. Since I'm "not that great" at Arabic, I can't read and interpret the Qur'an very well. I use the Pickthall translation.
Sometimes at night I've laid on my bed talking to Allah, and I ask Him if I'm doing it all wrong. What if I'm wrong and the majority is right? There is no one in my life presently who can give me guidance I'm looking for or even exchange information with me. For most of Islamic history, Qur'an-alone followers have been comparingly few. My mom has called me vain and egoistical to think that I am right and
Ahl al Sunna wal Jamaa are wrong, who are most and have been most since Hadith first weasled its way into Islam.
I think this forum has the only like-minded individuals. I wish it weren't Read-Only but this is probably the only way it stays safe and free from corrupted information.
Oh well. Nice to meet you all.
Peace.