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Premarital relationships among Muslim youths

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Heba E. Husseyn
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« on: May 22, 2007, 01:06:23 am »

I think, to start with, what's most important is to educate the educators.  I don't mean the parents but those imams and 'scholars' who have the same status in today's 'Islam' as priests and bishops have in the Catholic church.  When our Muslim parents find their kids deviating from their culture, they at once run to their community imams for advise.  Most (not all, but most) imams and 'scholars' who act as the 'best advisers' set rules for the youth that are not just unnecessarily rigid but often far too complicated for practical application.  The moment you talk to them, it's just "don't do that" and "don't do this" .. to the extent that their local fatwas turn many Halal acts into haram.  Many Muslim youth are made to feel guilty even while indulging in the most simple pleasures of life e.g. attending birthday parties (because some nutty salafis say celebrating birthday is haram), playing musical chair, singing songs or participating in folk dances in family get-togethers etc.  Such controlling tactics sometimes snaps the patience of some youngsters.  And when that happens, their elders make even lesser effort to understand them except for the usual accusations and condemnations about following the path of Satan. 

Therefore, first, the parents should try to interact and help their children as much as possible instead of constantly running to the imams for advise.  Secondly, no doubt it's important to give the youth proper guidelines, but such rules should be balanced and practical by wisely discerning between Halal and haram enjoyments. 
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